Modern Manners

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  1. CL1

    CL1 116th LAA and 92nd (Loyals) LAA,Royal Artillery Patron

    Reliability, punctuality and acknowledging others with respect are the foundation stones of good manners. Consideration for others is shown through language, for instance in greetings and introductions but also physically, for instance by standing up when someone enters the room.

    Polite Actions - Debrett's
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  2. Tony56

    Tony56 Member Patron

    For 'modern' read 'Days of Yore'
  3. Charley Fortnum

    Charley Fortnum Dreaming of Red Eagles

    My nephew looked at me like a recent arrival from another planet when I told him that at my school all the pupils stood when a teacher entered the room.

    He also seemed thrown by the idea of pupils being addressed by their surnames: "Try to pay attention, Fortnum."

    I don't know whether either instilled any extra respect, but they didn't do any harm and they certainly made explicit your place in the educational food chain, so to speak.
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  4. CL1

    CL1 116th LAA and 92nd (Loyals) LAA,Royal Artillery Patron

    Yes indeed and people said please and thank you and actually replied if you sent a message or letter
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  5. canuck

    canuck Token Colonial Patron

    "Good manners are the lubricating oil of any organization"
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  6. timuk

    timuk Well-Known Member

    And pay attention one did or you were likely to find the blackboard rubber winging your way!

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  7. Pat Atkins

    Pat Atkins Patron Patron

    Or chalk, in the case of my maths teacher - he used different colours to denote different offences, and though I can't now recall what the designations were I certainly remember the sudden sting and the resultant telltale smudge of red/green/white, etc. I must have looked like a post-impressionist picture on a bad day...
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  8. bamboo43

    bamboo43 Very Senior Member

    I say thank you to my team at work every Friday afternoon as we leave for the weekend. Good for morale I find.
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  9. von Poop

    von Poop Adaministrator Admin

    Two of my teachers sat & chain-smoked after barking out a page number.
    That was the whole lesson, give or take the odd aforementioned flying board rubber.

    Times do change...
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  10. CL1

    CL1 116th LAA and 92nd (Loyals) LAA,Royal Artillery Patron

    For starters, it's hard to give thanks if you're uncomfortable acknowledging that you have received something. Perhaps you don't want to feel indebted, or don't want to look needy. Maybe it's simply embarrassing. These feelings are normal - but they can sure get in the way of being thankful.
    Say Thank You
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  11. canuck

    canuck Token Colonial Patron

    Yes they do.
    We now live in a kinder, gentler age.
    Which I've noticed must have an inverse relationship to learning. You once could safely assume that a university grad possessed some degree of literacy and basic math skills. Not anymore.
    Could there be some science behind the fear of physical harm somehow stimulating the synapses?
  12. Tricky Dicky

    Tricky Dicky Don'tre member

    We do?

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  13. CL1

    CL1 116th LAA and 92nd (Loyals) LAA,Royal Artillery Patron

    We do?
  14. CL1

    CL1 116th LAA and 92nd (Loyals) LAA,Royal Artillery Patron

    Nothing like a good caning for not being polite and then saying thank you sir
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  15. CL1

    CL1 116th LAA and 92nd (Loyals) LAA,Royal Artillery Patron


    Sitting to attention school 1960s

    Knife arch in schools 2019

  16. Charley Fortnum

    Charley Fortnum Dreaming of Red Eagles

    It must have been a decade or more ago now, but an old friend's mother was working at Lewisham College and I accompanied him to meet her for lunch. Perhaps I've spent too long in the Shire, but I was stunned to have to pass through a metal detector and then be patted down by a burly security guard (admittedly in a half-hearted manner).
  17. CL1

    CL1 116th LAA and 92nd (Loyals) LAA,Royal Artillery Patron

    I am always patted down by security when I go to football, my friends not so much and I always say thank you and ask if they can do it again.
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  18. SteveDee

    SteveDee Well-Known Member

    Sitting to attention in a 1960s school...

    Most of the more elderly teachers at our Secondary Modern (mid-1960s) seemed to hate us, and hate themselves for having failed to secure a proper teaching job in a Grammar School.

    I think many saw us 'eleven-plus failures' as just cannon-fodder (well, World War III was due to start at any moment!).

    But we were happy enough when teacher was writing on the black-board (with his/her back to the class) while we chewed up pieces of blotting paper, and tried to get nearest the teachers head by propelling the sticky blob with a 12 inch "made in England" wooden rule. ("...It's a rule boy! NOT a ruler. Henry VIII was a ruler!")

    (note1: don't worry if you are too young to know what blotting paper or a black-board is, just think yourselves lucky).

    (note2: many thanks to the spell checker for putting me right)
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  19. vitellino

    vitellino Senior Member

    I certainly made the little........ toe the line when I taught in a comprehensive school on Merseyside in the late '60s early '70s. It was either me or them and it wasn't going to be them.

    Seriously, I loved it. They were always offering to sell me something that had fallen off a lorry, or asking me if I wanted to buy a 'good dog' (one they had nicked off a building site).

    Joking apart, the teachers and pupils knew their place. The rules were clear and the punishments too. Happy times.
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  20. bamboo43

    bamboo43 Very Senior Member

    I went to an all boys Grammar School, it was great. I came away having had a brilliant four years and clutching my 6 O'Levels in my hand (failed Maths and Physics). We had some extremely strange teachers back then, some simply eccentric, some border-line sadistic, but all in all no harm done.
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