Jeff, I'm sure you have also taught your daughters to be gracious and appreciative if a man should stop to change that tire. Correspondingly, I have taught my sons to be that guy who stops to help a lady in distress and to be otherwise courteous in their day to day interactions. They do report, however, that increasingly, young ladies are not always receptive to receiving a basic courtesy like having a door held open. There is more risk in modern life to being labelled a misogynist bastard for demonstrating what was once common courtesy.
What about intervening when a couple is in an altercation with each other in a bar? I hate to say it but that often results in a beat down from both of them. I've seen that a couple of times over the years.
When I went to a boys grammar school in the 50s it was normal to refer to fellow classmates by their surnames unless they were close friends. Masters were of course directly addressed as Sir and when talking to other masters referred to as Mr (apart from Basher Irwin who was always Doctor Irwin) but amongst pupils were known by nicknames (Knocker, Old Bill, Bubbles, Happy, Ichy, Splinter Jim, Wong and so forth). After leaving university and beginning to earn a living in the 60s it was still usual to address ones peers by their surnames and it wasn't until the 70s that using first names became generally accepted
My father was a cop and would wholeheartedly agree with that assessment. In fact, he would say that happens in almost all cases.
Being bad mannered back is just as bad as bad manners to you ,we are all guilty of this. When you try to have good manners your bad manners rise to the person who in your opinion has offered bad manners to you.
